What Did You Learn From Your Last Unsuccessful Relationship?

It's another Flashback Friday and we are going back in time to February 18th, 2019. This week we are asking all about learning lessons from exes.

From my last relationship, I learned that just because you have baby together doesn’t make it okay to stay in an abusive relationship because you want to be with the dad. I’m with a man who loves me and my child dearly now and I’m an even better mom.
Your partner won’t change. Whatever little annoyance you’re overlooking in the honeymoon phase will be there forever and slowly drive you mad.
To be more careful about who I choose and not be blinded by nice words.
Not to marry left-handed men! Both my ex-husbands were lefties. I should have learned my lesson after the first one!
Not to escalate/react so quickly. I have learned to step back and ask myself will this matter in 72 hours? If not, then let it go.
Communicate about your feelings! Even if it's hard for you to open up, just do it. My current relationship is so much healthier because I don't try to hide my feelings anymore.
Don't try to change them, if they still suck as a person a year after being together, leave.
If the topic of divorce comes up 4 months into the marriage, you should probably just get the divorce.
People will tell you what they think you want to hear. Actions speak louder than words!
LISTEN TO YOUR GUT AND DO NOT IGNORE RED FLAGS IN THE BEGINNING. THEY CAN TELL A STORY
Don't have sex on the first date.
Don't date an addict
Go camping,if that works things are looking good,especially if it’s cold and wet.
That he’s really a woman dressed in men’s clothing. Knows more about China patterns than I ever well.lord ,I needed a real man.
That I was just being used for pleasure and that I'm not going to let anyone treat me like that anymore.
To learn to not expect perfection in someone because once I did that I've been in the best relationship ever
Acceptance from your significant other is important
If it is true good to be true, and find out it is a horrible lie
Trust your gut! Believe red flags!
Trust no man.
Don't let him move in with you...
I’m meant to live alone and I LOVE it.
To be true to myself!! Don’t settle!
Alcohol does bad things to good people.
Communication is key. And current relationship taught me not to be afraid of counseling
Do not trust a man that can’t get over his ex,
If he’s hiding his phone, there’s a reason.
Not to get engaged after 6 months of dating
U can only control one person....yourself
Trust your gut.
Control the finances
If he always has an excuse not to video chat or meet in person, then he is an internet dating scammer and wants your money!
If he's been married more than 2x... RUN...there's a reason
That cards, flowers, and grand gestures are often smoke and mirrors to hide their true actions.
Never, ever.... and I mean never, forever, think you are going to make things work with an ex wife after 30 yrs.... she did have fun for a bit though (Me Too...)
My faith and education lead me to believe that people can change. However, once a cheater - always a cheater. #DivorceInMyFuture
TQOTD: Don't date someone that treats you like shit just because you want to be with someone. You are worth more than that and being alone is more rewarding than being in a bad relationship
Trust your gut. If something feels off then there's probably something not right. Like he's cheating or lying about something.
For the text question of the day I actually broke up with my girlfriend yesterday. And I learned Don't pour in your feelings and restrain yourself in certain aspects to fit that person's life if they will not reciprocate those feelings back.
What I learned from my last unsuccessful relationship was women cheat and lie about it
I’m out of time to think of an answer for TQOTD. Maybe I’ve learned nothing and I’m still stuck in that relationship, who knows. Lol! I know listening and learning to communicate are super important but sometimes that shit goes in circles like a vicious cycle.
Hi Fish! Your question hit home this morning. My most recent relationship just ended because I found out he was living with another women during the first few months we dated. Never really thought about why he didn’t invite me over, but I found out because the girl told me. Almost ONE YEAR into our relationship
Something I learned from my last unsuccessful relationship was...what I like during “balloon animals!” My last unsuccessful relationship was very unhealthy, but we really “explored” and experimented in the world of “making balloon animals” so now, I know exactly what I like/ dont like.
I will never allow someone to verbally abuse me or my children as my ex did for 8 years. I will not allow a chance after chance for someone to change because they won’t. I will not let someone control me, steal from me and any signs of lying and I’m removing that person from my life. I deserve better. My children deserve better. #4eversingle
Never to let someone emotionally abuse me again
Trust no one. Be happy alone. And I'm badass! ;)
You can’t change someone no matter how hard you try.
Never date a narcissist. Their problems stem from within and always get turned on you.
Don't let one side impose their vision for the relationship because that person is selfish and when you don't full fill their vision, they cheat on you while in the Navy and leave you. But they get married a year later then divorced 4yrs later while you're happily married. My wife approves
I learned that it's possible for me to love again. I was hard on myself for a while and I needed to hear that to improve my life.
TQOTD: what I learned is even when you fight hard enough to keep a relationship, if the other person doesn't love you anymore, let them go. It's probably because they already have plans with someone else in their life.
ANONYMOUS TODAY....TQOTD...Stop trying to figure out what's wrong with yourself and thinking you need to change for others! Be true to yourself, don't change who you are for anyone, and it might sound kinda stupid but love yourself and know you are awesome! #SelfConfidenceIsHot
That when your gut is telling you that something’s not right, listen to it. I will never get married again..ever..
I learned that I can be happy, but I need to be happy alone before I can be happy with another person.
Don't fix something (someone) that's already broken.
#tqotd I learned how easy it is to miss the red flags. Love can be so blind. So, you have to trust your gut and those around you. That relationship messed me up big time, BUT there's also hope. Been with my best friend for 7 years now and married for 5.5! I remember being so relieved when I met him because this is what a functional and trusting relationship is like.
My worth is not found in someone else’s ability to love or not love me. My worth is grounded in my ability to love myself ... flaws and all. I don’t need a significant other to be significant. #imworthit #hardlifelessons #divorcesucks
I'm still learning from it lol 😅😂 I'm still in it hehehehe
TQOTD: I learned how to love myself and how to love somebody else and let them love me back. That was the hardest thing for me. Sadly though we didn't work out but still remain good friends.
That everyone is going to have a flaw. I just have to find the flaw that I'm willing to deal with.
Once a cheater always a cheater
I learned my self-worth. Never again will I let somebody try to tear me down to their miserable level of existence. I walked away from that and came out on top from that awful two-year disaster. Now I'm with a guy that is absolutely incredible and I think I'm the luckiest girl on Earth to say he's my bf and that he loves me no matter what had happened in my past.
I learned that I deserve someone that puts in as much work and effort as I do to keep a relationship going, bc maintaining relationships takes choosing that person every day and working for it! ❤
#tqod the thing I learned from my last unsuccessful relationship was to listen to the red flags if someone shows you who they really are pay attention also I learned that is better to be homeless than to live with a psychopath
A healthy relationship doesn't include either person searching thru the others phone.... andddd real love isn't something you have to make for or work every day.
#question of the day. My last relationship lasted for 22 years the list of things I learned from that relationship is huge. The two most important things is it's not worth staying for the kids and don't stay in a relationship where the affection is not reciprocated
I have learned that I don't always have to be right and that the way I do things isn't the only right way
#TQOTD I learned to not be a control freak. My ex did a lot of manipulation and tried to alienate me from all of my friends/family. It took me 3 years to walk away and repair relationships.
Txt question: If you're serious about someone, learn all about their families mental health history! The saying "the Apple never falls far from the tree" is SUPER true!
TQOTD: * please keep anonymouse for this one🙃 * Only ever had one relationship -ish so far ...if it could be called that ( there was almost no communication for over 5 years after he moved) What I learned from the first is that long distance isn't the kind of relationship I can do. Single now, have a guy in mind that I want to ask next time I get to see him
I learned to not prolong the inevitable. Just because you really love someone doesn't mean that holding on for too long is eventually going to make it work.
Know when to let go
That con-artist do exist!!!
What I have learned in past relationships is run when you notice and addiction
I am in the same boat as Connie. Not listening to my intuition caused me more pain/issues than anything in my last relationship. Trust your gut!!
What I learned from my last unsuccessful relationship was that I'm happier alone than in a toxic relationship with a liar and someone that doesn't see MY self worth
Good morning! For the text question of the day:I learned a couple of things. Mainly that I don't have to justify things that I want, I can just ask for them. Another thing is to recognize the signs of when I'm being used or taken advantage of LOL
I learned not to settle, I learned that what I want also matters
That if there’s no trust. Don’t keep the relationship going
I learned to never support a man and love is blind I learned not everyone is what they seem after 18 years with my ex I learned to never ignore signs
I always dated people who I thought were my type but I married somebody who wasn't and I've never been happier
I learned you can't help those that don't want to be helped no matter how hard you try. Have a great Monday!!! Brandy from Clearwater!
what I learned is sharing, respect, being honest, and loyal and faithful goes a long way. Showing yourself love as well don't bash urself in any way cause that's not who you are.
What I have learned in past relationships is run when you notice and addiction
I married my high school sweetheart but what I’ve learned from failed friendships is that no matter how good of a friend I am not to expect the same from the opposite party. No matter how many times I bailed her out of a tough spot, she never reciprocated for me. And that’s the ultimate hurt.
I learned I should have never said I DO!
TQOTD: that my wife ( now ex) and best friend (also ex) cannot be trusted and I am worth so much more.
You know that phrase you can't have your cake and eat it too? I had a man tell me that I was the cake that he had but I wasn't sweet enough for him. So I self-reflected for two whole years until I met a new man he is not my husband and we're happily married. I guess my lesson is not to date people who live off of analogies and false phrases. What a jerk!
Boys who keep empty liquor and beer bottles as decoration above their cupboards is NOT ready for an adult relationship
Please keep me anonymous - don't ever lose your moral compass for what you think is love. I did that and ended up in federal prison...
Sister with the brain, I just recently divorced after 13 years and I learned the most valuable lessons ever. First I learned that being true to who I am is more important than anything because if I am not myself, then the relationship cannot be good! Second I learned what things are truly important and another person… It's not what they wear, It's not where they work, it's not what kind of car they drive or where they live, it's not even what they do for me. The most important thing and another person is that they are complete in themselves and do not look to the relationship for fulfillment. Two people are best together if they can be happy on their own
f that message didn't make sense I'm talk texting… I also learned that if after 10 years balloon animals suck, it means something pretty significant for the depth of the relationship! #IloveConnieandfish #Bestradiostationever
My relationship with my last girl lasted two n a half months. A con if I ever met one. She got written up n put the blame on me. Mngt. Gave me thirty day
Even tho balloon animals were great it doesn't mean he bats for my team 😅 #tqotd
Keep me anonymous, please. Don't sleep with random chicks on tinder also don't pay for sex. Lol
From my last failed relationship I learned I'm gay
You can't force love, no matter how hard you try to fight for that person it doesn't mean they will love you back
What did I learn from my last unsuccessful relationship? Being sure of the relationship for the both of you doesn't make a relationship work if they are uncertain and you're certain then you might as well just move on And save yourself some pain
Never give a 3rd chance. After I’ve given someone a 2nd chance and they burn me again, I’m done.
Trust your instincts. Don't prolong the inevitable. Get out!
I learned to wear a condom. Promises of help "if" a baby comes are typically going to be empty promises when you ignored the red flags all along. Also learned I'm a sucker for those who seem to need just a little help/boost.
Question of the day: If you have to hide any part of your personality from your significant other, you're probably not with the right person.
I learned that narcissism is a mental illness like depression and bipolar. Though it's difficult to deal with, I recognized his hurtful ways were caused by a fear that love has conditions and abandonment is a repercussion. I co-parent nicely with him now that I take his words with a grain of salt.
If it ended once there was a reason!!!
I have learned through it is possible to fall deeply and madly and love within a very short period of time it is also impossible to really know a person within the period of 3 months… that's how long I knew my ex-husband before we got engaged. I was 22. Once I put the ring on it, dropped out of school, moved away I made the mistake of being too prideful to bake a break off thing engagement. I could see the signs Of his narcissism his verbal abuse, And his wandering eyes from about month two. My daughter is destined for amazing things as she is the only good thing that came out of that relationship. It is so hard to know that she has a father who is who he is. I am happily remarried to a man who loves us like crazy, would never raise
Sister with the brain, I just recently divorced after 13 years and I learned the most valuable lessons ever. First I learned that being true to who I am is more important than anything because if I am not myself, then the relationship cannot be good! Second I learned what things are truly important and another person… It's not what they wear, It's not where they work, it's not what kind of car they drive or where they live, it's not even what they do for me. The most important thing and another person is that they are complete in themselves and do not look to the relationship for fulfillment. Two people are best together if they can be happy on their own
Learn the traits of a narcissist AND RUN AWAY FAST when you see one
What I learned from my last unsuccessful relationship is that there are actually men out there who like to have "balloon animals" with chickens. ACTUAL CHICKENS. And they think it's okay. Ew.
I learned that control, belittling, and mental games are forms of abuse. I am worthy of more. I also learned that temper issues are a sign of things to come
I learned that there is no reason ever that your relationship should be kept a secret. If they want to keep it a secret, there is a reason.
So both of my daughter's moms are now dating. I learned that morality doesn't mean anything to people anymore.
Clever that you play, "Put a ring on it", when are speaking of ex's... Many reasons as to not putting a ring on my ex. She's a Buckcherry type of woman.