What Lesson Did You Have To Learn The Hard Way? – #Secrets

It's often said that you learn better by making mistakes than you do by doing something right the first time.  Well, let's hear about it then.  What did you learn the hard way?

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What lesson did you have to learn the HARD WAY?

• The lesson I learned the hard way was "HE DONT LOVE YOU SIS, LEAVE HIM." I was in an emotionally manipulative/borderline abusive relationship where I was so certain I could 'fix' him. Would have saved myself so much heartbreak to leave him first.
• Connie, Fish, and Esteban(Steve). I learned credit cards are a black hole. #ShowMeWhereToSwipe #Bad #LessonLearned
• You cannot “roast” marshmallow creme with a metal spoon on a gas stove...well you can, but you should...not...put said metal spoon in your mouth!
• When in a relationship listen to your gut. If you think something is off it probably is and he is more than likely cheating on you. Also, never take him back. He’s never going to change.
• If you have a gut feeling something isnt right, believe it ‍♀️
• "Time heals" when you lose someone isn't true. At all.
• You treat people how to treat you. Hard lesson to learn and a painful lesson.
• Anger is the jenga block that if entertained can be the end of something positive. It only takes one mistake to bring down a timetable of accomplishments. #lifeslessons
• Your love and commitment is not enough for your spouse to give up their addictions. Nothing you do will ever change them, and you eventually will make the choice to either settle in your life, or get out and move on.
• That my parents were actually right when they said “you’ll understand when you’re older.” Meaning...I’ll know the hell I put them through when I have a teenage daughter who is just as big of an a**hat as I was. #notlivingthedream
• If friends or enemies say he's cheating, he's really cheating.
• That you shouldn’t drink Southern Comfort
• That you can't fix someone by marrying them. ‍♀️
• That the only person you can rely on is yourself
• That my sister was right when she said my ex was just using me
• There are a lot of people out there that only think and care about themselves.
• Every. Single. One. Sigh.
• Don’t trust people so easily! There only a select few that I trust! I used to be always so trustworthy but I learned my lesson!
• Happiness is a choice. I now always choose happiness
• Not everyone wants change, or wants to get out of bad situations due to emotional attachment. Can’t save everyone
• You can’t trust everyone. Take care of yourself. Love hard but be true, don’t waste value time.
• 1) My parents had a reason to be annoyed by my teenage and early 20 year old self. 2) Learning to like to be alone with yourself and not rely on others to make you happy.
• Don't put Tupperware lids in the dishwasher
• Saying "Hold my beer" never ends well. Ever.
• You have to take care of your own business even in a marriage.
• Never trust anyone with something that is very personal and don’t give away your hard earned money to anyone anytime
• How to love myself. 38 years old and I'm just starting to get it.
• It is important to keep good track of your finances
• I am NOT spidergirl
• Being kind gets you screwed.
• Spoil your kids you end up raising theirs
• Don't marry a psycho!! If his family are psycho he will eventually turnout that way too
• Don't trust. ANYONE
• Most of them
• That my ex fiance was a piece a trash and that my parents were right the whole time
• Secrets... I learned that edibles are not for everyone Witches and slow motion is not normal And that shi*t lasts f.o.r.e.v.e.r
• After a long night can you guys play memories or lover before 6:50 to start my work day.
• First I have to make a comment that having windows and being in the new studio has totally lightened you guys up. Not that you weren't lightened up before but the windows bonus. Lesson learned for me is spending. Lots of fun to do not so easy to pay off credit card debt
• I learned the hard way that you should NEVER talk badly about your job or your husbands job on social media. It WILL cost him his job. This was about 8 years ago. And it was nothing bad, I just said something along the lines that he was having a bad week. I cringe now when I see people post about their job in a bad way On social media. It was a tough lesson to learn and luckily we are in a much better place now.
• My lesson learned was pay your bills on time and never take a cash advance off your credit card
• I’ve learned not to trust your exes when they say “they have chAnged” She came back, got pregnant and left. She had the kid a week ago and hasn’t told me anything about it. I don’t know the name or even if it’s a boy or girl. Mind you she did the same thing with out first kid a year ago
• The hardest lesson I’ve learned is to trust your gut. No matter how much you wants to not listen it’s always right. Good bad or indifferent.
• common im sure, but you cannot change or fix someone..what i thought was just damage and immaturaty in my first husband was truly just narcissism. live and learn.
• Throwing things at moving cars? Not a good idea, lesson learned. Credit cards and debt, not a good idea to get into.
• real friends are hard to come by. I've been screwed over so many times from people who claimed to be my friend. Lesson I'm still learning.... Make people earn your trust.
• I had to learn the hard way that you shouldn’t steal. Even if it is the smallest of things. When I was about 8 or 9 I was at the store with my mom. At checkout there were some hockey cards that I wanted, but my mom said no you can’t get those. Well I still wanted them, so I tried to steal a pack but on the way out of the store they fell out of my pocket. My caught me and instead of just yelling at me or grounding me she took me to the local sheriff station. At the station I had to sit down with the sheriff and talked about what I did and I was shown the jail cells. Let’s just say I have never tried to steal again.
• Never let your "friend" help you get a job where they work. And when two mutual friends warn you about it, listen.
• Always say what you need/want to say to someone, because you will never know if you will be able to see them again. Life is too unexpected and can be cut so short for no reason, never hold back, and always let it out. That way you’ll never have to learn the lifetime lesson of “once someone is gone their gone forever”.
• What lesson did I have to learn the hard way, you ask. Learning to say NO and sticking with that answer. Why I say this in case you are curious. Because I was good at saying it, but then I would get the but pleeease, or the but I really need it or better yet...I promise to work it off to pay you back. It wasn’t until our middle son was 18 and his younger brother was asking, almost demanding something and I kept saying no and he persisted in asking, I finally caved, like always. that is when his older brother said to me, typical you, you say no but when we keep on, you give in. Mom, be the parent and learn the word NO and No means NO. Connie, it pissed me off so bad in that moment I snapped back and said your right. Lesson learned. Now you remember what you just taught me. I have stuck to it, and it really didn’t bother anyone. Still a happy family 12 years later. Have a wonderful day
• Do not marry the first person you date after a divorce #shopdontadoptmen
• The lesson I had to learn the hard way is an oldie but a goodie. “Love is a lot like a fart. If you have to force it, it’s probably shit.” #betteroffwithouthim
• That it wasn’t a fart