We got deep today with our #Secrets question.  We hope that expressing your negative thoughts and hearing other people's can help show that everyone has rough spots in their lives.  Just know that you are never alone and you can always find someone to talk to whether it be a friend, family member, or professional.  If you are having a tough time, find someone to talk to about it.

#SECRETS:
What’s the most common NEGATIVE thought you have?

  • #secrets My most common negative thought is that I am invisible, unimportant, and undervalued. It's hard being a mom of 4 littles with a non romantic hubby who doesn't have a nurturing bone in his body. #toxicselftalk
  • So many...I’m a failure as a person, I’m fat, I’m not good enough for anyone, I’m broken/damaged, etc.
  • I hate looking in the mirror. I look like a umpa lumpa and anything I wear especially bathing suits 😝. And that other people see me the way I see myself. I hate going places with my husband because I can't wear cute clothes. I wear sweat shirts most of the time just to cover up my In securities.
  • It’s tough trying to be comfortable in my own skin. I need a thinner younger non-wrinkley body.
  • Negative thoughts add to stress/anxiety/worrying which consumes me after having children. Prior to that, I didn’t have a care in the world. Parenting is the hardest job in the world.
  • I can't say it. If I do, it would be considered motive and I would be looked at as a suspect! 😉
  • I have none. No point in being negative. Love yourself and if you aren't happy make changes.
  • I just havent done good enough by my kids...parenting 2 boys and 2 girls is tough. Two of them are married and they still want and need advice and direction and I often dont feel capable.
  • "I can't do this (life) anymore"
  • That I’m going to be alone for the rest of my life.
  • I'm letting everybody down...especially my daughter.
  • I am too fat and I will never find a guy who will except me the way I am looks and All
  • I’m not a good enough mom/friend/wife. I’m just not good enough at anything.
  • I try not to let that kind of thinking dominate my life.
  • Overthinking everything I say “why did I say it like THAT?”
  • That I don't matter that much to anyone, basically feel invisible, disposable and if something happened no one would care.
  • Randall in this weeks episode of This Is Us is 100% me.
  • Seeing myself in the mirror 😒
  • That my body failed and that’s why I lost my son
  • I'm not good enough and/or I'm not a good mom.
  • Why is my house never clean? Why do I drive so far to work?
  • That I don’t really matter.
  • I’m not good enough..
  • Being a stay at home mom is over rated.
  • Nothing I do is good enough
  • That I'm a horrible mom....
  • That I won't have enough money to live on when I retire.
  • I’ll never be able make it on my own
  • I’m no good to anyone.
  • Mine is outliving my husband 🙁
  • Nothing will get better...
  • I'll never find someone to love me for me.
  • Not good enough or I'm to fat
  • That I am a bad mom.
  • That I'm going to fail as a mom like my mother did.
  • I'll screw it up and I can't do it.
  • Gruesome Twosome will become roommates with Karma's bad side
  • Thinking too much and constantly overthinking
  • I'm getting old.
  • I don't deserve anything
  • wow. these are all pretty sad.
  • SWB: My kids deserve a better mom
  • No one truly likes me
  • Mine is "I do everything wrong"
  • I'm not good enough for anyone.
  • How overweight and ugly I am 😥
  • Fat. FatFatFatFatfatFAT. FAT.
  • #secrets The most negative thought I have is either about my weight or my anxiety about the impressions that I leave people with about me. My fishing anxiety constantly makes me feel like I'm not good enough for anything.
  • My answer for secrets: The most common negative thought that I have is when will I be able to stay happy. I'm 22 but it seems like right when my life turns good and I'm happy, something comes along and derails my happy train... Its frustrating. I'm getting married later this year, so hopefully thattle do the trick 😊
  • Most common negative thought- that I am too fat and not good enough Pertains to friends, my kids, my marriage, my family I struggle with feeling like I am worthy of the people and life around me.
  • I just gotta say, these negative comments are so real. We have to remember that these comments are from such a small fraction of people that are listening to the show. And I want everyone to hear this. There are people that love you. Even the people you’d least expect. Maybe it’s someone that you haven’t talked to in a couple years. But you are SO loved. I love you too! This world is a better place with you in it and everyone deserves good. I say this because I need to hear that too sometimes. We all need to. XOXO
  • My biggest negative thought is that I cannot stand my body and I’m very ashamed of myself because I continue to eat and I’m not motivated to exercise and nothings going to change unless I can get myself to do it
  • There are too many to write down 😒 but I would have to say that my brain tells me I’ll never be as thin as those other girls. I definitely struggle with body image I always feel like people are judging me because I’m not skinny
  • I dont love my in laws. I dont hate them by any means but when they hug me goodbye and say I love you to me I am just like BYEEEEE
  • Most common negative thought is i will never be good enough. As a parent or partner in s relationship and its all i want
  • ? Of dah day... I have a lot ... everyday... Iam fat and Lonely and most likely will die that way. Hate living here. But oh well Hi guys👋🏼
  • I have none. I now have two wonderful grown kids, I'm divorced as of three years ago, and looking forward to a renewed life at 56. I can move and go anywhere, have no tie down straps, including a house, and can now fulfill my bucket list. FKing love my new life, but do miss a companion.
  • I lost a significant amount of weight 15 years ago (145 pounds) and have gained 40 pounds and feel like a complete failure, even though I've still lost 100 pounds.
  • Sometimes, I get in a situation that makes me think, am I not good enough for this? I think this sometimes because I mess up a lot and then people get on my case about it. so I just think I am not good at doing that and maybe I should give up. but then someone encourages me to get better and I do. That is when I feel worthy again.
  • Most common negative thought- that I am too fat and not good enough Pertains to friends, my kids, my marriage, my family I struggle with feeling like I am worthy of the people and life around me.
  • People suck. I'm a very giving person. I'm a fixer so if I got money and you need it I'll give it no problem. People who say they're your friends are the worse. I continue to do things for people and then get "fished" over by them every time.
  • I am not suicidal but i always think my family would be better off if i just left. Moved away and never spoke to them again. I just never feel good enough for anyone.
  • That I’m not someone that anyone would ever want to make their wife. No one in this world can ever love you enough to want to spend the rest of their life with. He really was right
  • I feel like I failed my children as a mother. I was a single mom for nearly all of their lives. Now that they are young adults I see them struggling and feel like its my fault. I will probably always feel this way.
  • Secrets...what's a recurring negative thought you have. That I'm an idiot. That I'm an idiot for thinking I deserve the life I have, the family I have, or the love I have with my boyfriend. Some days I feel very undeserving of the great life and love I have. I know I'm blessed. I'm trying hard to keep it at that and not get myself down.
  • I am five months pregnant and do not think I’ll be a good mom. I feel like I’m already disappointing my child and they aren’t even born yet
  • Secrets--- Life would be so much easier if he would just die already. # guilty selfishthoughts
  • The most common daily negative thought I have hands down is about Road Conditions, whether it is potholes, construction, accidents, traffic, back ups etc.
  • EVERY DAY ERRRRRRRRRRVERY DAY I’m out here basically cussing out in my head for the road conditions, and the things I would do to them to make my pain their pain. Eat a Street Light Road Commission!
  • Negative thought? I'm only 29 going through a second divorce. I feel I'll never be good enough for actual love. That because I can't have children anymore makes me unloveable just... useable.
  • my secret of the day is... today’s my birthday, and i literally have no friends to hang out with. just to keep my mind off it, i’m going to the casino with my husband tonight.. there’s nothing else for me to do. my own mom even goes out of state on my birthday. sure, birthdays don’t matter as much, the older i get... but i’m only 26. i feel like it still matters and should be celebrated. but you can’t celebrate with no friends :(
  • The I'm literally not good at anything. Being A mom being a friend being a person
  • I'm failing my two daughters as a father, I see other parents and kids out there and I always feel like my kids are behind and I can take provide the things that other families can. I feel like they will resent me for that. My dad was absent my childhood so I don't have a good example to follow, and everybody tells me I'm doing a good job but I still feel like infaik them every day.
  • Most common negative thought is when driving I am super judgy to people texting. It makes me really upset & immediately negative towards that person.
  • I always wonder who allowed me to become an adult? I'm a flaming, boiling, mess at any given time of any day.....AND I'M RESPONSIBLE FOR 5 CROTCH FRUITS....EVERYDAY! #BoyMom #ImAMess #AdultingIsHard #IHateItHere #SendHelp
  • I'm constantly thinking about how I wish my ex would just get super fat and ugly. I actually have even ordered a couple pizzas to his place without him knowing hoping that he ate all of those greasy pieces. #HeWillNeverBeFat #HeIsSuperHot